I often hear the intense level of frustration or disappointment from guys about “losing” their erections while they’re with a partner. They tell me about how they feel like less of a man. They talk about feeling betrayed by their penis and their body. I hear about how they feel pressured by some of the masculine stereotypes of performing sexually. I’ll hear from clients that they feel like they’re losing hope and they talk about how they’ve “tried everything and nothing works.”
4 ways to talk to your partner about sexual anxiety
Let's face it, anxiety sucks. It can make you feel like a prisoner in your own head and as if there is no escape from the ever-present worry. In fact, sometimes talking about our worries to someone else can be just what we need to remind ourselves that we're not alone in these experiences and feelings.
What makes you hella nervous?
In the last ten years, sex and anxiety has become a topic that I keep finding myself talking about with clients and colleagues. I find that it covers so much of our current lived experience in dating and relationships. Anxiety can come from burnout, relationship issues, financial stressors, political and systemic factors, and various forms of trauma…